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Monday, 5 September 2011

What's in a password?

Okay, so the password thing might seem to be getting old and tired for some... However have we ever taken the time to ask why people put passwords on their phones. Yesterday I watched the film, Why did I get Married too? directed by Tyler Perry and I realised just how much the cellphone or computer password really matters to some couples. Is it neccessary that married couples have passwors on their phone? What's the secret, what are you doing searching things on somebody's phone? What ever happened to the concept of privacy? Or is too much privacy the problem in the first place? I asked my facebook friends as to what they think of the whole fuss we make about having a password and I just realised that having a password on your phone causes more strain in relationships than anything else.  That is something perhaps many people need to start working on altogether because indeed passwords bring more suspicions than answers, here are what a couple of friends had to  say when I asked them on facebook on what they think :
To all my taken fwends with gfs n bfs, if u eva touched year parner's phone wot do u think ov da password thing? N if u married plz also tel me wot u think
· · Friday at 6:26am via mobile
    • Jacques Schewitz I think having a password on ur phone is a good thing. Because of the world we live in...I don't put a password on my phone to hide info I put it on so that if my phone got stolen its a big F U to the turd that stole it...bt if ur in a relationship it goes both ways...u shouldn't have to put a password on ur phone to hide stuff from your partner and then ur partner should also trust you and nt want to snoop around ur phone looking for "evidence"
      Friday at 7:06am · ·
    • Amanda Unathi ‎1 this is a simple but gory way of testing the level of trust in your relationship. Its simple because its a yes or no answer, does you spouse have a problem with you accessing their phone, if the answer is "no" then there is no problem unless if he is a master of the game and doesn't save msgs or phone numbers. If the answer is yes then you have to look at the level of trust in your relationship and what his/her action alludes you to think.
      Friday at 7:17am
    • Amanda Unathi ‎2 if you trust each other well enough then there is nothing to hide and you will share your passwords
      Friday at 7:19am ·
    • Amanda Unathi ‎3 do not take the fact that you have your partners password as your way of keeping tabs on your partner. if you think he/she is cheating on you, yes you have a right to find out but there is a better way ie there are way more signs you should pay attention to then a cell phone
      Friday at 7:25am ·
    • Amanda Unathi ‎4 there is nothing wrong with having a password ppl, in these days its advisable that people get a pass word. Which leads me to my next point "the reasoning behind your partner having the password", its very important to know the true intention of why they have a password and if you know and understand those reasons fully without error then maybe you would be justified in being against the fact that he/she has the password and you can't access anything from their phone
      Friday at 7:33am ·
    • Amanda Unathi Haha people if your afraid of the people he or she contacts on his/her phone then you should really worry about the people they prefer contacting on the public phones, lol what will you do " start putting tabs on public phones". Point is if you partner cheats or will cheat on you, then there is absolutely nothing you can do about it cell phone password aside, they could meet someone today and have a fling once the other person is out of their sight it will always appear as "it never happened so long as you don't know the truth
      Friday at 7:42am ·
    • Sisanda Matshangisa Mangie I dnt hv a prob wif ma bf hvn a password...as long as i knw da combination!!!
      Friday at 7:43am ·
    • Amanda Unathi @Sisanda why is it important to know the combination?
      Friday at 7:45am ·
    • Sisanda Matshangisa Mangie y nt? he knws ol ma passwords,so dnt c no big deal!!!
      Friday at 8:01am ·
    • Kedibone Adams Lol variety I lyk, tel us y Ms Matsh
      Friday at 8:02am ·
    • Sango Jikani Wat does she want frm ma fone.its ma fone..y shud she snoop around.wantin to read msgs n seein calls..nt dat i got anything to hide n if i had sumthn to hide.its deleted anyway.a fone sumthn personal n da gf shud understand this.i dnt put passwords.i jst dnt giv her ma fne.simple.i neva ask to see hers so naye ke...
      Friday at 8:19am ·
    • Amanda Unathi Lol, ok then but don't you think you should give him that time for when he is ready to reveal everything to you and shouldn't that be his choice, because then if he has to be compliant by telling you his password by telling you his password then that means he was forced and if so then how would you know if he is honest or just doing things that might be dishonest while putting that smile on your face.
      Friday at 8:25am ·
    • Amanda Unathi ‎@ sango how do you know if she wants to snoop around in your phone, give the girl a chance (at least to prove that she trusts you)she might just be playing one of those cool games you have on your phone or taking a pic of you, just because she has your password doesn't mean she is trying to control your life.
      Friday at 8:33am · · 1 personLoading...
    • Jacques Schewitz Ok don't take this the wrong way coz it is totally my opinion(it may be wrong)...2 things stand out for me from the feed back: 1: amanda in ur first few comments you said "if you trust each other you will share your password" then later you said "it is important to know the reason why they have a password" so I'm saying that your first point is trust then you move over to reasoning and then lastly you finish by trying to justify having a password...the point I'm trying to make is that you probably have a password on your phone?(Am I right?) And that you probably give your partner the code...but although you give him the code you don't want him using it...witch is rather contradicting if you ask me...coz you said its a yes or no question. I have a lot more to add but I don't want to put it on this thread...
      Friday at 8:35am ·
    • Jacques Schewitz but what I will say is that you are probably the person who doesn't want your partner to know everything that's going on in ur phone which is why you try justifying having a password and then try and end off by saying " what's the importance of knowing his password" to sisanda...
      Friday at 8:35am · · 1 personLoading...
    • Sisanda Matshangisa Mangie ‎@Amanda bt in dis case i neva eva askd 4 hz password!
      Friday at 8:39am · · 1 personLoading...
    • Amanda Unathi ‎@Jacques1 Well basically I don't have a password on my phone anyone can go though its their choice if they are looking for dirt on me.
      2 my bf knows all my other passwords that is : facebook and all my 3 email and some time I ask him to go on to my emails for me so I don't have any trust issues, I don't do shady things so so he can access any information on me because I trust him with it
      Friday at 8:45am ·
    • Amanda Unathi Still @ Jacques I don't have a password on my phone because I prefer simplicity but that doesn't mean I don't see the need for it because if someone should steal my phone they will be able access personal things about me etc
      Friday at 8:48am ·
    • Amanda Unathi ‎@ sisanda ok girl then its all good because its a lot better when things just work out that way
      Friday at 8:51am ·
    • Sisanda Matshangisa Mangie ‎@Sango NEVA EVA?
      Friday at 8:57am ·
    • Amanda Unathi At Jacques I think you got the wrong Idea, if you pay attention to everything I have written it should be apparent that I am trying to say 1 its up to your partner if they want to share their password with you
      2 that should also show you the amount of trust they have for you (so don't abuse it lol)
      3 if your partner is not ready to share their password for you, don't force it on them, its sometimes a personal matter for some people and some people are slow in relationships and the choice belongs on your partner not you, otherwise your going to drive yourself crazy wondering about the reasons you don't yet know his password and that in itself will create even more problems in your relationship
      Friday at 9:07am ·
    • Sango Jikani Lol.neva.n ol ma gfs dnt ask for it ey...bt yah.guess they see im nt a fan of the fne swappin crap..its ma fone and ma personal information....
      Friday at 9:26am ·
    • Kedibone Adams lol...
      Friday at 9:36am ·
    • Sisanda Matshangisa Mangie ‎@Sango myb wen ur on a serious relationshp o wen ur marid!!! (jst myb)
      Friday at 11:28am ·



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