The grim truth about death

 Death is one of the things we resist talking about, EVER. Some of us have stared death in the face to many times and perhaps became more open eyed about the experience, while others live in trauma about the experience. I will never forget the look in my aunt's eyes when cancer silenced her for good and subjected her fragile body to pain. Nor will I forget the woman she once was before she became very sickly right before my eyes. You can imagine what it must have been like for her, when you could do everything for yourself and now find yourself in the complete care of others right till the end. This sound is still fresh in my family because it happened a month ago but the experience is something we will never forget. The scariest part is when I watched Morning Live a shocking statistic being revealed, cancer has killed more people than HIV/AIDS and TB combined and will still continue to do so if we do not find a cure.

But how you die is really beside the point, the question is when and what happens next when we leave the ones we love behind. Scary thought I know and many say you cannot prepare for what happens when you die and what you become remembered  for. I disagree with this, I have gone to enough family funerals as well as friend funerals enough to know that when you are gone only then do people really start to tell the truth about your life. For as long as you live you will always have people who cannot wait to see you fall, some will try and make your life as short as possible and others will love who you are because they see right through you, but what is the use of them loving you if they don't let you know? Which leads me to think sometimes death is not so painful for the person going through it. More than the technicality of your breath and everything slipping away at times its probably the most convenient to others than their entire lives put together. No more hurt, no more pain, the world has no effect on you and can no longer have a hold on you. These are the simple truths of death other than the grief we experience when we lose the people we love and like it or not this is a reality. Sometimes we die in more ways than one, there is nothing like a shattered spirit, broken dreams, doors of opportunities closing on you than opening for your future, that on its own is death for some of us and bringing all of that back to life may take more than we could ever bargain for.

My advice to you is, live life everyday like its your last, enjoy it with people who you love and who love you and be the best you can be for yourself and for your creator. Nothing can surpass that, not even death can.