Besides our family and friends we have discovered that in this life we live in, nothing can be taken for granted. Sometimes we need more than just somebody to love but somebody who is going to be there in the long haul. It is so easy for our minds to wander and get amazing ideas as to how we are going to form the best relationships until life's shortcomings show you, this is a hard task. Sometimes we push people who are essential to us away and we are not aware of it, sometimes we are aware and think its right choice we made until we realise later on that we still need them in our lives. This is how we do it:
- Keeping distant from them without confronting the issue we have with them.
- All of a sudden feel an urge to break away from them so we can form new friendships because we feel nothing about them is new any more.
- Our natural desire to be different and want something better than ourselves or something we already have.
- At times we are not in our senses and ignore our friends because we feel we can do it on our own.
- When we are at the destructive tip that its us against the world and cannot rationalise as to why we think this when there are people who love us enough to help see our problems through.
- Sometimes we do not play our part in our loved ones lives and often do not contribute our best to them or go the extra mile for them like they would for us.
- They go beyond the call of duty in our lives
- They never get tired of being there for you and see you through in good times and in worse times
- They share their last piece of chocolate with you ( Can you say Sacccrifice??)
- Will never let people tear you down while they are around.
- They may not always have sound advice or sound plans what they find a way to get you back on your feet.
- They do not mind a lifetime with you.
women obsess about their hair has to be one of them. Good looking hair can make a bad day and a bad outfit look okay, try it and you will see it. Problem is though that some of us women, particularly black women will do anything to look good and disregard having the natural Afro or relaxed hair but would rather have a weave. Between us girls, some of us black women are afraid of winter, you know what they say, "summer time we let it flow, winter time, oh no there it goes!"(In this case your hair) So much effort is put into the weave, let alone the pain that comes with it. The sowing of your hair braids to Indian, Brazilian, synthetic, or human hair may take very little time but truth is when its time to sleep with the weave on, that's a story for another day. I know from personal experience what its like not knowing how a straightener works, and having to practice because my weave needs it. Even worse is not sleeping at night because of the itch, if not... the pain of my hair being pulled together from my scalp to make this unreal but almost "naturally me" look suit me. 
