How you know you are not ready to move on from your past relationship.

I have friends, a lot of friends... Perhaps too many or should I say, some are aquaintances. So many of us have had moments in our lives where we fall inlove with someone with everything we have and forget that what truly matters is our personal wellbeing. Some of us have done anything and everything in the name of love but feel that love has never returned the favour and instead threw our efforts back in our faces. The words "We are through," "Its not you its me I just feel we many have moved on too fast," " Plz call its over, "  'I have found someone else" and " I need space," are enough to hurt anyone and make them feel unwanted and perhaps and asking themselves why. The worst form of  hurt in any relationship would be when you discover you have loved this person all along and they are cheating on you, some are cheating with your friend or even worse, your rival. So many relationships have ended without there being any closure and this is where the root of not getting over your Ex begins. Here are some possible examples that you have gotten over them or what lead to the breakup.

 

• You still have the stuff that your ex gave to you when the two of you were still together.
• You talk about them non stop wherever you are even when they have long forgotten about you and moved on.
• You have sleepless nights wondering what they are up to, with who and when.
• You still think of every moment the two of you spent together.
• Get jealous when you hear they have found someone else to replace you.
• Constantly using the phrase, "We were bound to break up anyway."
• Justifications as to why you are even mentioning their name in any conversation when they are no longer part of your life.
• Still feeling a need to make things right one more time with your Ex and perhaps seek closure.

Ways of moving on

• LET IT GO if it is meant to be then it will be, if this is truly love then you will find your way back to them.
• Call your ex and demand or answers when you need answers for once and for all and they do not give you that closure, come to the conclusion that they never cared.
• Find the part of yourself that you lost to the person you once spent your time and love on and re-invent yourself for a better you and for the next one that comes along.
• Learn from your past relationships and not go back to the blame game, look at their faults and yours and make a decision as to what you are going to do about them.
• In the words of  Dr. Phil, you cannot solve what you do not acknowlege.
• Take the time to rekindle old friendships and invest in new friendships and surround yourself with people who love and care for you are you are.
• LOVE YOURSELF, thats the biggest foundation of any relationship and do not forget the part of you that is strong and can handle anything.
• Lastly, the rest is all up to you, just keep in mind that out there is somebody who can't wait to love you and be your side.. Its just a matter of time and place and of course your personality.